Monday, January 03, 2011

common ailment

You know how women who are abused will say they fell down the stairs or they ran into a door nob? Yeah. I haven't fallen down the stairs in a while, but I constantly hit my arms on the handlesets as I pass them, or worse, the edging of the door - that leaves a nice bigggg bruise :(

Best yet, the other day I was lifting a stool over a desk, paying attention to the desk to make sure I did not hit it with the legs of the stool when the leg crashed into a closet door jamb. the stool of course hit me smack in the mouth giving me a bloody lip. but who on earth believes a woman with a a fat lip who says "Oh, yeah, I hit it on a stool"


Oh! Oh! Wait! I have one better! back when our now eight year old was about 8 months old or so, I was walking with him in my arms and stepped on a toy which bloody hurt and I fell. I put out my one arm to catch myself so I did not break the baby I was carrying and ended up with a sore wrist. I ignored it, but when my husband got home from work he insisted I have it x-rayed as it was quite swollen.

At the clinic, the doctor tried to get me and my baby to hide away at a shelter and arrest my husband for beating me.

Uhm. yeah.

I know that people do get beaten, and I know kit sucks and I should be glad that there are people who care and who try to assist the victims, but it makes it damn awkward to be a clumsy person, when there are people who care LOL


Not a Granny said...

Yeah, I know all about being clumsy.....I am the worse! Two years ago I fell and fractured my rib. My husband took me in to the should have seen the way they treated him!! I had to practically shout that he did not do it to me..and then I had to pull out a business card to show them that I kind of knew what I was talking about...yes, a business card to the domestic violence center where I work. worked.

bluepaintred said...

ugg. i have a huge ass briuse on my knee from hitting it on the door jamb trying to get out of the bathroom to the phone!

I often wonder, as I look at all my colorful bruises, if I died in my sleep, would someone accuse my husband of beating me to death becuase of them?

Kate said...

My father was an abusive alcoholic. My mom found the strength to leave him to make our life.

So I understand more than most how important these opportunities and warning signs are.

When my husband and I were expecting and we went to our first doctor appointment, they made him wait outside to ask if he was abusive. Not only did it ruin a very exciting moment for us, but there was nothing that prompted it.

I feel that every time I go to the hospital someone is asking me these questions.

I don't know what the answer is.

I found you from Sans Pantaloons. I love your site. I’m going to poke around a little bit, but don’t worry I’ll put everything back where I found it!!